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No matter what school of thought for raising their children a parent adopts, or what strategy is used for improving a child\u2019s behavior, one thing is certain: there will be conflict at some point. While this is a very unpleasant reality to face as a parent, it can be less stressful when the parent learns how to properly and consistently teach conflict resolution to their children.<\/span><\/p>\n

To further explain, the problem is simple \u2013 we can\u2019t always avoid conflict. However, the resolution can also be this simple \u2013 we can resolve conflict <\/span>with <\/span><\/i>our children as long as we properly teach new mindset skills.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In order to cultivate healthy and intellectual development within your children, there are proven ways for encouraging your child to develop proper conflict resolution skills.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Help Your Kids to View Conflict From the Other Person\u2019s Point of View\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

Encouraging your child to look at conflict from the other person\u2019s perspective does a couple of vital things. (1)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. It teaches your children how to empathize in different situations.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. It teaches your child to change their perspective in order to see the bigger picture.\u00a0 <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Help Your Child Understand Nonverbal Cues\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

    Oftentimes when a child winds up in a conflict, the child can become pretty defensive and resort to blaming tactics. This could look simple like the child hitting his sibling and then declaring \u201che was just\u00a0 playing.\u201d As the parent, you can encourage your child to pause, observe his sibling and then ask him,\u00a0 \u201cDoes it look like Sarah knew you were just kidding? She\u2019s crying because you hit her, and I can see her\u00a0 feelings are hurt.\u201d When you are able to pause and point out to your child that he made someone cry,\u00a0 he is able to connect his behavior with having hurt someone. Over time, your child will begin to notice and understand nonverbal cues without being guided to do so. (1)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Teach Your Child to Repair What Needs Fixing\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

    Having your child apologize for things they did is very important. It allows your child to verbalize apologetic and corrective intention. However, sometimes more than a simple apology is needed. If your\u00a0 child breaks another kid\u2019s toy on purpose, it\u2019s not always easy to cruise over the situation with an \u201cI\u2019m\u00a0 sorry.\u201d The apology is a foot in the door, but the parents can teach the children to fully follow through with the repair process by replacing what was broken. This could look like buying a new toy, acting in other kind ways like giving up a toy to replace the broken one with or writing a letter of apology. (1)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Shorten Your Script\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

    Another way to connect with your child during a conflict is to shorten your script, meaning, say less.\u00a0 That\u2019s right! Say less. It\u2019s easy to see that children in conflict cannot necessarily process information overload. While talking to your child may seem like the best thing to do, lectures and speeches should definitely be avoided.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    So, when a child is in conflict, it\u2019s easier to say more with fewer words. This could look like, \u201cAre you asking me or telling me?\u201d when a child demands something of you, \u201cTry that again with respect\u201d when your child speaks to you disrespectfully, and \u201cWould you be willing to compromise?\u201d when your child seems unwilling to budge. (2)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Shortening your script with very purposeful dialogue will allow for your child to be open enough to let you guide them through the conflict until they get used to it enough to be able to guide themselves through conflict.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    These four methods are very helpful when you\u2019re looking to connect with your young one during a conflict. Although conflict isn\u2019t avoidable, the resolution is much easier than you think to attain.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Resources:\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

    1) Siegel, M.D., Daniel J. Bryson, Ph.D., Tina Payne. <\/span>The Whole-Brain Child<\/span><\/i>. New York. Bantam\u00a0 Books. 2011\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    2) Purvis, Ph.D., Karyn, Qualls, Lisa. <\/span>The Connected Parent<\/span><\/i>. Eugene, Oregon. Harvest House\u00a0 Publishers. 2020.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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